So who wants to be a Matchmaker?

Why is it that so many ladies between 29-50 are approaching me to help them find their soul mate? Has my reputation been going around, that I even get requests from ladies, I have yet to meet before?

I am quite tickled...when every lady is looking for her knight in shining armour, coming to sweep her off her feet with a big car, give her a big house, pay her lots of $, and treat her like a queen.

Any available perfect gentleman, with a big heart, big car, big house, big pockets and big whatever, do contact me!.

I remember once at a NAC preview 2 years ago, they had a simple exercise. They called up 2 single and looking volunteers - a male and female.

And their first task was simply this - describe yourself (your character, your likes, your dislikes). Their second task was this - describe exactly your perfect match.

And the final task was - swap the results from project 2, between the guy and gal, and if you were this person - what exactly would be your perfect match.

So back to reality - the perfect guy you are looking for, is probably looking for someone totally different from who you are today!. So to attract the person you want, become the person your future partner is looking for. So go improve yourself first, or lower your expectations.

My advice to all ladies single and looking is:-

1. Go open up a free account in Friendster, Myspace, Hi5 or even in FriendFinder. In sites where the guy has to pay to become a member, you get better quality guys to meet.

I know of some friends who are happily married and they met through sites like Friendfinder , Senior FriendFinder(for those looking above 40), BigChurch (if you looking for Christian partners) Indian Friend Finder - if you looking for Indians) or Chinese FriendFinder (if you prefer Chinese)

2. Upload at least one nice photo of yourself - not passport or baby photo please. If you photo shows you in your favourite surroundings or with your favourite hobbies the better. Please make sure you have a full face shot and full body shot.

3. Be truthful about yourself and describe yourself in the third person. Meaning as if someone else is describing you. Make sure you fill up all your likes and dislikes and if you are quiet or homely, just say so.

4. Be specific about who you want to meet and if you are willing to relocate..meaning do you have family ties or commitments that keep you stuck in your present location. Also be very clear of the end result e.g. long term friendship, companionship or marriage

5. Be realistic about who you can attract, based on your age, education, looks and baggage that you carry - be it kids, ageing parents or an unhappy past.

6. Have fun and let nature take it's course. Don't sound or appear to be so desperate, so just be yourself and not someone you hope to be.

I wish you every success in finding what you are looking for. And if you need my advice, I am just a buzz away, so don't hesitate to call if I can help.